Happy Almost Book Birthday to Okay Fine Whatever!
Courtenay Hameister was a talk show host for Live Wire! for 12 years. Despite being a talk show host, she lived with generalized anxiety order that comes out in a myriad of ways and basically made her feel like poop before and after every show. She created a plan to expand her comfort zone by trying things that made her only slightly uncomfortable, and called it the “Okay fine whatever” project, or OFW.
To be clear, this book was mostly about Hameister’s sexcapades. It seems like things that made her feel most anxious were things that had to do with her body image, and therefore a lot of the things she attempted were related to her sexual experience. Hameister is very sex positive and talks very openly about her experience – she was a 34 year old virgin, and when she did have sex, she ran with it.
So if that’s your jam, this was actually a really fascinating book. I thoroughly enjoyed Hameister’s writing style. Not much in the way of action happened on the pages, merely her experiences and her own analysis of her thoughts. I enjoyed her dry sense of humor, although at times it came across as self-deprecating. Hameister addresses that as well; her humor is very much a product of her body image, and she’s very clear about her journey towards a more positive body image.
I enjoyed how open she was about her mental health. Anxiety is something I think about a lot, and find it fascinating that it can be so awkward to talk about with others. Many people have anxiety for various reasons, and it can be triggered by a variety of things. Hameister manages to bring humor to even her most anxious moments. What I was truly thrilled about was the way in which she shares about the coping skills she uses to help herself feel more comfortable even when her “dread ball” is forming. (She refers to the feeling of anxiety she gets in her stomach as her dread ball.)
Her footnotes were hard for me to read, as they often felt rather distracting from the overall plotline. However, reading them at the end of the chapter cemented some of the jokes from the scenes throughout the chapter. I enjoyed their additional humor.
I received a copy of this book via the publisher through Edelweiss+ in exchange for an honest review.